Tuesday, February 14, 2006


No, not VD as in Venereal Disease... At least a dose of the clap can be gotten rid of with a shot of penicillin.
Maybe I should take the advice of this card. Seems that no matter what I do, how far I go I still get shit on and it just makes no sense what so ever to continue hoping against hope.
Want to hear the latest mental castration I received?
I met up with a woman last week for coffee who said she was my age, but yet looked like my grandmother... Blue-hair rinse and perm, granny sweater and all... Know what she told me right to my face? What this 40 year old going on 90 had the nerve to say to me?
"You're not attractive enough for me..."
The fucking BALLS!!!!
I'm soooooooooooooooo fucking sorry I'm not Brad Pitt or some soap opera stud. Take a fucking look in the mirror why don't you.
I've tried hard to be everything a woman says they want in a man, but still that isn't good enough.
I give up.
Copyright Thomas J Wolfenden


Kev said...

Don't take it personally, Tom. Consider the double-negative impact of her statement. From what you've said, she clearly has bad taste. If you're not up to par according to her standards, that's probably a good thing for you. Don't let the opinions of others affect your opinion of yourself. And don't try to be what they say you should be. You can only put on an act for so long, anyways.

Granted, none this helps you get laid, but it should at least stop you from dragging yourself through the mud.

Ranger Tom said...

Kev, it wasn't WHO it came from it was WHAT. It's the attidude I've been getting for the last year or so.

"Oh Tom! You're such a fabulous and nice guy!, but you're too ugly for me!"

And getting laid was never on the agenda with this woman or any woman.

With that woman it was the proverbial pot calling the kettle black.

Miss Fire said...

Don't give up, Tom. There are women out there who want the big picture. It sounds so cliched and stupid, but looks will fade....your personality is forever. There is someone out there who gets it and you'll find her. My advice - stop looking. When I stopped looking, he found me.

Happily married as I am, I HATE this day. Another stupid commerical holiday, but this one makes people feel like shit. Yay!

Sherri said...

Tom, this woman was obviously suffering from insecurities. What she was really saying was 'damn, you're way too good for me. I'm going to have to shoot you down before you discover this for yourself.'

I think you're awesome. I would trade looks for personality and charm anyday, believe me.

cantellya said...

I'da told her the only reason you had coffee with her was because you felt sorry for her.
I can appreciate your frustration. They're out there, Tom; the one's who don't "go on looks alone." I saw your picture and I don't think you're ugly. So there.

Cheryl said...

That was a horrible thing to say! Consider yourself lucky you don't have to deal with her any more. It's frustrating, but don't give up hope.

tsduff said...

You don't have to try to be everything a woman wants! Be exactly who you are! I believe that there is someone exactly right for everybody. That lady obviously wasn't your Ms. Right, that's for sure! I can't believe she was so entirely rude to you! Don't ever give up :-) It will come when you least expect it. Like it did for me.

Bev said...

Screw her. I can't believe there are some people who have the gall to say something that bold and rude. I mean, even if I think it, I wouldn't say it. What class!

Crazy Me said...

What a biatch!!

cmk said...

Some people were just born with no class.

Ranger Tom said...

To everybody: Thanks for your kinds words and encouragement. To tell you the truth, I have stopped looking. That one meeting was from an old personal ad I hadn't checked in a while and she had sent me a note asking to meet.

The frustration I'm getting is all the bullshit I hear... From my ex, who I bent over backwards to please for almost ten years and STILL it wasn't good enough...

Women I've dated after her that said one thing to my face and meant a completely different thing altogether. Told me I was everything they'd always wanted but in the end I wasn't 'exciting' enough, I was good enough to sleep with but I couldn't be seen in public with them like I was some embarassment...

So, like this ecard someone had sent me anonymously (REALLY!)I'm listening and giving up. I'm sick and tired of playing the gaddamn game.

Lisa said...

OH my god. This woman is a complete moron. In so many, many ways.

I've never understood why some women want a Brad Pitt look-alike. Alot of women are really stupid. I've discovered that if I like the man's personality initially, I find him more and more attractive as I get to know him.

I don't understand some of these women. I will take stable, sweet, and sensitive over a jerk any day.

And don't bend over backwards to please your ex-wife. STOP THAT RIGHT NOW. She's your past. Focus on yourself.

Ranger Tom said...

Lisa: I was speaking in the past-tense about the ex... Believe me, the last person in the world I want to please is my ex. I couldn't give a rat's ass what she does. To be honest, If she was right in front of me now dying of thirst I wouldn't piss on her corn flakes.