I had written before on how I was giving up on the whole internet dating thing, and I have. I don't need any help meeting nutty women. Besides I have better things to do with my time. I had deleted all of my profiles on several dating sites months ago but I had forgotten one site that my profile was till up and active on. The above picture is the one I used, because it's the best one of me I have, because I'm not all that photogenic, and two, it shows the warm, sensitive side of Ranger Tom... Cute, warm puppies and a nice smile.
In the profile I listed the normal stuff, like height and weight, age and likes, desires, hopes and dreams. All that bullshit because I thought maybe, just maybe there was one woman out there who'd take the time and read my profile, see something she likes and drop me a line.
After months, do you think I'd get one reply? Nope. I did send some 'winks' to some women and did meet a few and only one I met was really compatible with me, and we didn't last long because we met at the wrong time, for both of us. That was about two years ago and I still think about her and wonder if things could have been different.
Anyway, back to my experiment. So I had this profile up. Listing everything about me. Educated, employed, sensitive, funny, likes to cook, outdoorsy...
No responses and only rejections... So this got me thinking. I looked at my profile and didn't see a thing wrong with it. Where did I go wrong?
It's got to be the way I look.
I'm not THAT ugly. Granted, I'm wearing a ball cap. But EVERYBODY wears ball caps now. I've got a full head of hair, not going bald. I shave daily and have good personal hygiene. I'm not a porker, I'm 6' 2" and 195 pounds. Definitely weight-proportioned to my height.
So last week I changed my picture to the one below just to see what would happen. And guess what? Over the last week I've had over 75 replies to my ad. Some from women who've rejected me before... Remember, I didn't change ONE thing in my profile, just the photograph.
And I STILL keep hearing that guys are assholes and shallow.
Copyright 2006 Thomas J Wolfenden